Category Archives: Soft Skill and Personality Development

Self-management Part 1

Self-management, it is exactly what the name suggests.

Handling yourself in the different situations life throws at you with a positive attitude is what we define as self-management, but this is not such a narrow topic to be understood by a few lines, it has a vast meaning and pretty more steps are involved here to truly know and get going with the process of self-management.

This can be divided into nine segments, the nine skill sets that will help you move towards self-management in a very efficient way;

  1. Self-awareness

The first most importance skill-set that you should have in terms of self-management is self-awareness. Now self-awareness simply speaking that you should know yourself, the unknown self is not something that is worth living.

To being some changes in oneself, one must be aware of who they really are and what they really stand for and so is this skill set of self-awareness. To get to know your true self you must ask yourself certain questions and make improvements, ask if you are lazy and if the answer is yes, go ahead and ask why? Ask yourself, if you love the work you do and can you go ahead and work an extra hour if yes? Why and if no? Why? What drives you? What is your passion? Where does your heart belong to?

What makes you feel motivated? Who makes you feel comfortable? Who do you hate? And why? And who do you love? And why?

 All these questions when answered along with a very intellectual and thoughtful reasoning will open doors to your true self that you were not even aware of and didn’t even know that it existed.

Ask yourself about yourself and get to know yourself to function in a better and an efficient way.

  1. Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is just how you carry yourself and how easily have you been able to present your thoughts to others and how do you keep a track of yourself and make sure that you own the room when you enter one.                                                                                                 

Since asking questions has proven to be a very good method to get the try answers let’s try this once again and ask yourself.

Are you confident? Or, are you over confident? Or are you lacking in confidence? You may be one of these three categories. And you may be confident at some time, some aspects of your life, but completely lacking in confidence in something else. Which part of your life you are lacking in confidence? Then, do you believe in you that you have the strength and power within you to achieve anything that actually amounts to your confidence— that is the inner confidence. Okay, outside you are embarrassed with something and then you are not exhibiting a sense of confidence. But inside you—do you believe deeply in you that you have that power, you have that strength to accomplish whatever you want in your life? If you have it, you are confident, and if you don’t, you need to develop. And there you have it, your answer your reason to develop and improve yourself.

  1. Mind-set

Mind-set is again a very important skill-set that you need to develop in terms of self-management skills. The most important thing—do you have a positive or negative mindset? Do you always see the rosy picture of life or always look at something that is gloomy? Is your mind looks at problems or comes out with solution to problems? Are you a problem creator or a problem solver? So, there are people in any situation—they will first look at the problems, and there are others in any situation, they always try to see the best possible solution that can be arrived at. What is it that your mind thinking about? Is it problem-creating or solving the problems? Then, the other aspect of mind-set; do you have a rigid fixed mind-set or a flexible growth mind-set?

           Growth mind-set people—always know that there is so much to learn and then 

           They make mistakes, but they learn from the mistakes, they develop, they                 

            Enhance and then they grow. So just see whether you are in the fixed or in the  

            Growth mind-set.

These are the first 3 set of skills that are to be attained in order to move towards the path of self-management.

The other two sets are continued in the next article…


“What defines you? What are the words that define your existence? Is there a reason to it? Are your good deeds defining your life? Do the people around you remember you for your work?

 Are you living a meaningful life? Do you have a goal?”

These are a few questions you must ask yourself daily if you’re trying to live a life that’s worth more than anything you can think of.

Sit back, look at your life from a wide angle and let things fall into your perception while you examine what you do and where you belong, notice the things you do on a daily basis, the people you meet, the amount of time and dedication you give into the work you are doing, just take a moment and see what your life really is.

It’s been said that it is the people to whom you spend maximum amount of time define the 80% of your happiness and peace in your life, take a look once again and see if you are surrounded by the ones who make that 80% worth it or are the ones who ruin the remaining 20% and maybe take a little time to set things into a better perspective.

To know how to get these people have a positive effect on your life you must know how to interact with them and for that you must have a set of soft skills that serve to be of a greater use here. You must know what you want from these people who are around you, cause your success is not just yours, remember that.

You must know how to ask someone, to ask the universe what you want but before you can ask someone of something you must know what you really want.

You wake up each day, follow the same routine, do the work assigned to you at a time assigned, but have you ever thought how the things you do can make an impact on the people around you, what are they going to remember you for?

Just know that you are here in this world, and you are here to leave a mark on it. You have got to wake up everyday remind yourself that, this is the only life you have, you can either make the best out of it, make yourself be remembered as the best at what you do and do things that start a ripple in the ocean of change, you are here to put a dent on the world, as quoted by Steve jobs.

Dedicate your time to the work that will bring a difference and add to your quality of life, being a task with a the end in mind so you know where you’re headed to, and maybe just give up on the task that do not add any value to your personality and your development.

That is why things just fall away in the face of death leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.

Make the best out of what you have, so knowing where it all ends gives you a purpose to live a life worth remembering.